The Neck
The neck is one of the hottest spots on the body, but you must control yourself. Hickies are more or less annoying to most so ensure your partner is into that first! If possible don't have a dry mouth, but don't slobber! Cover different areas of the neck with tender kisses, using your hair or cheeks to brush the areas under/behind the ears for extra stimulation. Light nibbling and tugging usually work really well also. Start out soft and gentle; as he/she gets into it, slowly go harder and wilder to fire up her passion or release his beast.
The Scalp
You've noticed that a lot of women play with their hair? They do it because it feels good and odds are good she wishes you would play with it, too. On the flip side, many men also like to have a gentle head massage or scratching, so if you have nails, gently run your hands through his hair in circular motions while lightly scratching his scalp.
Guys she's probably not expecting you to pay any attention to her hair physically, but having hair brushed can be a very sensual experience. Both men and women like it when you run your fingers through their hair as you're kissing them. You can also caress his/her scalp gently with your hand. Girls give us guys bonus points for washing or blow drying their hair (just leave the actual styling to her). On the other hand, some people have phobias when it comes to having their head touched, so remember to start out slow and see if they are ok with it.
His Chest
You will find for most men that the nipples are highly sensitive and should be sucked and nibbled on. Just remember to start out a little slower and work up to harder techniques. Watch for discomfort, some partners have a lower pain threshold then others, so communicate.
Her Breasts
Breasts are a lot of fun, so it's unlikely you'll give them too little attention. The mistake you're more likely to make is giving them too much attention before she's ready. Try taking the less-is-more approach, touch her breast softly, then lift your hand away for a moment, and then continue. This gives important moments of anticipation, stick to indirect stimulation of the nipples until they become aroused or hard and kiss all over the breast. Do not focus on only the nipples.
A woman's breast is full of nerve endings and all breasts have the same number of nerve endings. So women with smaller breasts tend to experience increased physical sensations when touched because the nerve endings are condensed. So go slow, take your time and slowly fondle the breast. Areas that are especially sensitive to touch include the nipple and the areola (the pinkish area that directly surrounds the nipple). One of the more sensitive spots, is the underside of her breast. So try starting around the outside and moving inward with slow circles. If she tries to push your mouth or hand directly to her nipples playfully resist, and continue moving slowly towards her nipple. She's not going anywhere, so have fun and tease her a little. This should take a few minutes and will "prime her pump" helping her reach orgasm easier during sex (and some women will orgasm from breast play alone). Try making the tip of your finger wet and lightly play with her nipple. Then use your fingertips to very lightly squeeze her nipple. When they are nice and hard, bring your mouth in. Note: some women enjoy nibbling and rougher play, while others are really sensitive and prefer light soft touching. Find out her preferences by asking or watching her reactions.
The Inner Thighs
Inner thighs are always a great place to turn your partner on, as virtually everything you do around this area will feel good, be it is touching, kissing, licking, or nibbling.
His Glans Head
The glans head or penis head is the purplish, mushroom shaped mass at the top of a man's penis. This is the most sensitive part of his body and concentrating on it is the easiest way to get him off. Men who still have a foreskin will have a more sensitive glans head so ladies handle them a little more gently.
Her G-spot / Clitoris
The clitoris is a small knob of pink flesh located at the top juncture of her inner vaginal lips. Women like different amounts of direct stimulation on their clitoris. Women have different tastes on clitoris stimulation, some like it rough, others like is soft. The best bet is open communication and start with indirect stimulation through the labia. From here you can lift back the clitoral hood to expose her clitoris and start licking it gently and work up to her limit.
The truth is, most women need a good bit of arousal before having their clitoris targeted, but once they have reached that point, that's where many women want you to devote your attention usually all the way to orgasm.
Another area for sexual massage is the G-spot, to locate it, reach up inside her vagina about 1.5 inches. With the pads of your finger gently push up towards her belly button. you will find a area that is rigged or not as smooth as the rest of her vagina, and when aroused it feels spongy.
The Perineum
The perineum is the area between the vagina/scrotum and the anus, it is very sensitive and it often goes unexplored. There are a lot of nerve endings there and it is quite responsive to gentle play. It also has an element of intimacy that might turn him/her on. Some people are scared of or disgusted by anal play and/or fingering, so if this is the case reassuring you partner that you wont do anything that are against will help. This is not a part of the body that's normally exposed, so they will feel like they are giving you special privileges. Remember to stick to a light touch at first until they are comfortable.
The Anus
The Anus has a large number of nerve endings surrounding it and it is very sensitive. The proper stimulation of this area can heighten both a man and womens sexual pleasure. Men can enjoy prostate massage and even reach orgasm from it, while women can enjoy indirect vaginal and G-spot stimulation from anal play.
His Scrotum
The scrotum is the flesh sack that holds the testicles. When playing with the scrotum ensure you do not applying too much pressure to the testicles as this will cause a lot of pain to the man. So when playing with a mans scrotum and testicles be very gentle.
Her Buttocks
Most women like their butt to be properly attended to, and with more vigor than you might think. Her butt Is not sensitive the way a nipple or a clitoris is so you can knead and squeeze them. A lot of women are also very self conscious about their butt, so spending time here will show her that you like her buttocks allowing her to be more comfortable with herself and you.
The Small Of Her Back
Besides being rich in nerve endings, the small of the back has pressure points where stress can accumulate. A massage there might not turn her on in the same way that sucking on her nipple or rubbing her clitoris will, but it'll feel good and help release stress. What's more, it could even help with arousal, by increasing blood flow and engorgement in the pelvic area.
Start by applying steady but moderate pressure with your fingertips and if she likes it, work up to a deeper massage. It never hurts to throw in a few kisses there as well. One technique we have learned usually works well with a massage is; while you are massaging her, take a minute or so to kiss her neck, then run your tongue very softly down her spine. After this you can continue with the massage or "go for lunch!" |
