So what is Asexuality?
To make a very long story short, it is simply a reduced sexual desire, and despite how rare it is any one who researches this agrees asexuality is a legitimate, naturally occurring, sexual preference. It is NOT a disorders of any sort, it is not caused by mental, emotional or childhood trauma.
Even though an Asexual will not activly persue sex, they still have have a preference for men, women or both. In fact they usually choose to identify themselves as gay, lesbian, straight or bisexual. They often pursue relationships with ordinary hetero or homosexual persons, but when it comes to what they'll agree to do to satisfy a partner's sexual needs, it is entirely up to them. But they are just as likly to lead a selfreliant, independent lifestyle.
What is an asexual relationship like?
Asexuals have normal relationships like everyone else, and have normal psychological needs and physical needs that they may depend on their partners for. Depending on their personality, they might also enjoy flirting, cuddling, holding hands or being romantic. Still you will find asexuals who don't date or form attachments. You will also find that some asexuals want children and choose to bear them through such means as invitro fertilization.
Others asexual's are often in relationships where, they still partake in sexual activity. Even though they prefer not to, they often do so as a compromise with their partner who is more sexual active.
A online asexual community
David Jay, founder of the ‘Asexual Visibility and Education Network’, created AVEN in 2001 to serve as the first network to provide extensive information about this orientation. It is a place where asexuals gather in an online community that understands, supports and accepts them for who they are with out the misundersatndings other people suffer about asexuals.
