Basic Sex

Her First Time

Most women are a bit uneasy the first time they have sex. They wonder if they will enjoy it, or hurt. They may wonder if they will satisfy the man they are after and if he is the right one?

These are all questions that most women think about before their first sexual experience. Don't worry about it so much the your first few times having sex will not be remembered as your best sex ever, you will be unsure, a little clumsy, and it may hurt or feel uncomfortable the first few times. But most women agree that once you get passed the first few times, you will start enjoying all the pleasures that this type of intimacy has to offer.

Being Ready

The two schools of thought on this are as follows

1. More conservative countries like the United States say your first time should be with someone you really care for and that really cares for you in return. However, this can leave a woman sexually and emotionally inexperienced as it can be very hard to find "the right one" right off the bat. At 18 you usually don't have any clue as to what you actually want in a man making this only effective in small communities.

2. In European counties women have a different idea, find a fun guy who you are just going to use to have fun with. Some one you like and trust but don't plan on having kids with (unless it develops into something more later). This mentality is used where most women try to have fun with sex until their mid to late 20s, and then look for a man to marry after they have figured out if they want a career, had many men to hang out with a "feel out" what they want in a man in terms of "stability, sexuality, and emotional support.

No mater what path you take, here are some tips that can help you out.

Choose a place where you feel safe and comfortable, your bedroom may be the best place.

Choose a secure time when roommates / parents / friends won't come barging in.

Communication is very important so talk about doing it ahead of time to make sure that you are both thinking the same thing. Getting the topic out in the open allows you to become more comfortable with the topic.

Most women feel pain during intercourse the first few times because they aren’t used to being penetrated. This can be reduced dramatically through fingering. Whether you finger yourself or your partner fingers you, stretching out your vaginal opening will definitely improve the experience.

Feel free to say stop when ever you want, whether you haven’t started, are starting, or are well under way. It may be because you are getting cold feet, or something about the situation feels wrong, the reason can be whatever you want, just make sure the person you are with will honor your wishes.

Excessive dryness of the vagina can be a problem, especially when nervous of the first time experience of intercourse. Although lubricant will not stop all the pain, it will definitely decrease it to some extent. Waxaline is your best option as is will not rot sex toys or condoms.

There are a few positions that are really good for starting out, depending on your concerns. If you want to be in control, then we suggest having your partner lie on his back, and you can straddle him “cow girl style”. If you would rather be on the bottom, the missionary position is probably the best way to start.

If your partner has erection difficulties, it may not be your fault, remember unless he is much older they you he will probably be inexperienced as well!

The most important thing you need to know is to practice safe sex by using protection.

Remember, this experience should be an extremely special and intimate time for both partners. Good luck, and remember, the best sex happens with people you care greatly about.