To start with, get really lubed up and slowly begin anal play, but take it easy.... really...really easy. Gently rub the sphincter muscles, this is called "knocking" and gets your partners body ready for you to enter. Once they relax you can gently push your finger in to the first nuckle and stop. Now you should gently rotate your hand and finger inside them in clockwise or counter clock wise motion. This will help them open up and you can start to slide more of your finger inside them as they relax, just make sure that you follow their intestinal track as you go up inside them.
Once your inside, you can do several things like slowly twisting your hand, pulling in and out, moving in large circles following the wall of the cavity, or stimulate specific spots with little circles. You can stimulate the anus itself since it is surrounded by a large number of nerve bundles and is very sensitive. The second is the prostate gland; it is located a few inches inside the anus towards the belly button, and often feels like a firm bulge. Reaching your mans prostate gland like this can feel a little "invasive", but once he opens up this wont be a problem..
Please remember that the anal sphincter is a voluntary muscle, designed to open with internal pressure, but if you use a lot of lube the anus will perform the same action in reverse. Once the finger or toy is inside your partner (one or two inches) you can gently angle the toy or curl the finger towards the stomach to stimulate his prostate.
For Females
Before you get close to her anus, you need to explore her inner thighs and butt with your hands and mouth. Some women have had bad experiences with anal play, usually because their prior partner moved to fast and where not gentle so talk to her about anal play before you ever try it.
Some woman are "juicy" and you can use her natural vaginal lubricants, but we strongly recommend that you use a water based lubricant, waxaline or both in large amounts. Once you get your hands and anus good and lubed up you can start some slow anal play, but take it easy.... really... really easy. Gently rub the sphincter muscles, this is called "knocking" and gets your partners body ready for you to enter. Once they relax you can gently push your finger in to the first knuckle. From here you can rotate your ringer in clockwise or counter clock wise motion to loosen her up and push in further. They may tense at first but as they relax their sphincter muscles you can slide in deeper. Make sure that you follow their intestinal track as you go up inside them.
You may need help her relax, and Kissing her and performing Cunnilingus are just a few ways to ease her anxieties. Once inside, you can start exploring her to see what she likes. A basic techniques is to move your finger in a circular motion exploring the walls of her rectum, moving in circular motions along a specific region, moving in and out, rotating your hand to spin your finger. The shower is a good idea for this as she may have a bowel movement from this stimulation, and before you try to insert more then one finger make sure she is very comfortable with what's already inside her, and again use a lot of lube! Remember that it is a very sensitive area; so be gentle and watch her reactions before going further. |
